Federated software is the worst of both worlds, combining what is bad about centralisation with what is bad about distribution and magnifying both:

A lill while ago, I found out that I had been disconnected from a friend of mine, as the server I was on, had defederated from the server her was on. Thing is, I had no idea this had happened until he contacted me elsewhere.

I started toying with the idea of making a lill tool to notice when these things happened.

Trunkfriends is the result of this idea.

https://mastodon.social/@trunkfriends/111317805263318818